When You Wish Upon A Star

I have realized this week that in marriage hopes and dreams are greatly different than the dreams we have as children. When we are young we have dreams like eating ice cream for every meal, and never having to go to school again and just play all day. When we are in marriages we have dreams that we may not sometimes realize we have. For example, I could not wait to have my own place so that I could live how I wanted and not be told to do anything. After I got married I realized that my husband likes things a little more tidy than I do. I didn't think of it as a big deal. Then it came to the point where my husband was frustrated that things weren't staying clean and so we talked about it. I came to know and understand that my husband grew up with a cluttered house and didn't want to have that when he had his own place because it made his anxiety spike. When I came to know this, my whole attitude and demeanor changed. I decided that I needed to help him in his dreams as he has always helped me in mine. 
Our dreams might be different than ice cream or different from our spouses', but by listening and understanding where those dreams come from we can help each other reach those hopes and dreams.

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