To Yield or Not to Yield

Since the beginning of time we have seen families as such, first the father then the mother and then the children follow suit in order of age from eldest to youngest. At least that is how my mind always worked. As I have gotten older and carefully observed my parents and their relationship, I have found that in a way I was wrong in how I viewed a family. Yes, the father is the head of the household and the patriarch, however that does not make the role or place of the mother to only be second in command. They are a partnership and deserve to treat each other as such. This means that the man should be as considerate as the woman in the marriage and her input in their relationship and their family. Men who choose to follow this counsel will not only have a longer and more successful marriage but will find themselves to be much happier. When the husband yields his need for complete control in his relationship he finds happiness and balance in his marriage. When he doesn't, there is more conflict and hurt feelings on both sides. So, happiness or misery? To yield or not to yield?  

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