A Two Way Street

This week I was thinking about my marriage and how blessed I am to have my husband. It has been almost six months since we got married (clearly we are veterans), and I reflected on our relationship. Of course we have had little disagreements and such, but it has never escalated. I actually just watched our wedding video and cried the whole time thinking about him and how grateful I am for my husband. I think one of the many blessings of marriage is the companionship. Husband and wife together to lift and support one another. If there is one thing that my husband does very well at, he is a fantastic listener. He always makes me feel like my thoughts and opinions matter, that I am valued and that he cares. 
Although it is amazing to have him in my life, it made me wonder how I am to him. Do I make him feel the same way? Do I encourage him in a way that strengthens and uplifts him? Do I sincerely listen to him in a way that he feels valued and appreciated? In these many questions I have felt and seen that this can no longer continue as just a one way relationship. He deserves to be heard and feel valued just as much as I do. So, starting this week I am turning things around and I am going to do my best to be better for him. 
“Marriage is that relation between man and woman in which the independence is equal, the dependence mutual, and the obligation reciprocal.” —Louis K. Anspacher
“Tenderness and respect—never selfishness—must be the guiding principles in the intimate relationship between husband and wife.” —Howard W. Hunter
Some quotes I will live by this week! (Found on https://www.mormon.org/blog/40-quotes-marriage )

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