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One of the main issues in marriage is the discussion of money. Why is this such a major problem between couples? Why does this cause a riff in a relationship? How can paper do so much damage?

Let's think about this for a minute. You have two different people coming together in a marriage. Each person has lived their own life their own way for their whole lives. They use their money differently. Some save and some don't, some have had to pay bills and some haven't. The fact of the matter is, we all deal with money differently. With married couples there is no difference.

What is important about these kinds of discussions is not only that they happen but that they are handled the right way. There has to be good communication about these things or else you will run into problems. When you have good communication you have a good marriage. It won't be perfect, but it will work, and it will work well. Just like with money, we all communicate, cope, and handle situations in life differently. But as we communicate and work through these things together, we will find that this will not only improve our marriages, but will actually save them.

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