Marriage vs Cohabitation

America is not like it was back in the 1960's. Since then, we have the invention of the microwave, the computer, the laptop, internet, and wifi etc. We have come a long way when it comes to appliances and in the technology fields. How have we developed and changed in our culture? Over half of a century later we have run into many changes. Gay marriage is now legal across all fifty states, the definition of family has changed, and women aren't expected to be at home and in the kitchen. Those aren't the only differences. Divorce throughout the country has increased what seems like tenfold, children being born without parents being married, and the main topic, couples cohabiting. Although it may be the new social norm, in the end it might not be the best option for a couple or their future family if they decide to never marry or live together before hand.
Divorce comes to more couples who live with each other before they get married. When it comes to having children, studies have shown that kids with parents who are not married or divorced struggle in many aspects. But why is this the case? Why is cohabitation that much different from marriage? It is my belief that this happens because a man and woman progress and develop together much better when they have a commitment to one another and are in a sense bound together forever. I believe that we were created to come together as man and wife and be married to help and love each other throughout life. Man was not created to be alone. But they should be together in marriage without pre-cohabitation. This will bring more peace between them and have a lesser chance of the marriage failing.

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